We Become the Average of the Five People We Spend Most Time With

Andrea Zanon Confidente
3 min readDec 9, 2022
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Many of us perform jobs for extended periods of time that are not the perfect fit. We perform tasks we do not like, and that do not match our skill set. We often choose to work with people we do not like nor respect just because we need to pay bills and make ends meet. Oh, well that is part of life, and part of learning and growing. While we all must go through some of this in life, we all have a chance to stand up, make some firm choices to build our own future that is best for us and for our families. I say this as over seventy percent of Americans and Europeans spend most of their lives in jobs and careers they do not like, often because of job security, risk averseness, and overall lack of a plan. These career choices often are also the result of the wrong advice, often benign advice done by our parents or our teachers.

Well, I think this can be changed for the better, and as I argue in several of my interviews and blogs, success and happiness are choices, and not the results of random events. To get there though, we need to implement decisions that help us get to the identified objectives. As a start we need to prioritize the decision we need to focus on in order to build the self-confidence that allows us to advance our personal growth.

Keep in mind that we perform around 30 thousand decisions per day, and if you are an entrepreneur this number is much higher. In order to focus on those decisions that make us grow the fastest, and “Become mentally and physically unstoppable”, here are five areas of focus to build a path to success. I call these “low regret actions” as they will deliver lasting success regardless of your identified life’s objectives”

  • Exercise every day for 1 hour. While this seems like a lot, it is not when you start counting how many hours a day you spend on social media, or on other digital “non-growth actions”. Focus on your body wellness and fitness as it will deliver happiness and self-confidence.
  • Read a book a month in the area of your expertise. The more you read, the more you learn, and the more you learn, the more you learn. If you are not a reader, become one. It is just a matter of prioritizing your inner growth, which coincidentally is an investment in yourself.

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Andrea Zanon Confidente

International sustainable development consultant and empowerment specialist